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Winning, losing or just playing the game?

All my life I have grown up with the motto of its not whether you win or lose its how you play the game or whether you have fun. Is this the correct message to give to young people or should there be more emphasis actually placed on winning. I mean if you enter a game with this ideology are you not destined to lose? I mean the team that seems  focused on winning with losing not being an option will most likely put in significantly more effort than the team that is just “happy to be there”. The teams that win championships are the teams that determine their success as winning the championship not making it to the championship game. You need to go into the game with this attitude or you have already accepted defeat. In life this passive approach is acceptable as it is more peaceful, less confrontational, but is it right if you really want to be the best you can be. Obviously my child playing house leage soccer versus Rooney playing for England at the world cup are quite different circumstances. But in terms of the approach why should they not be the same if the end result or goal is the same, to win. No one is really playing a game to lose are they? In life the goal is to win and be all you can be. A little competition is good but for it to be a competition you have to be willing to compete!

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  1. November 5, 2010 at 9:19 pm

    As soon as you introduce money, winning becomes everything. That is the sole reason to participate at that level. Your daughter, on the other hand is participating to learn not just how to play, but how to be a part of a team, sportsmanship, social skills and responsibilty – to name just a few things.

  2. Guru
    November 5, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    Actually the answer to this came to me merely seconds after I posed the question. And basically you have to find the fine line between promoting a healthy competitive desire and a strong sense of self appreciation. Only one can team can win and there will always be more winners than losers. Therefore most kids will experience losing a lot more than winning. Hence the emphasis on winning would end up leaving a lot of kids with a negative self image, they may develop a real poor self image if they experienced too much losing and grow up with very little confidence. Being able to walk away from a loss with some satisfaction that you tried your best or this was just a fun experience and that losing is not a big deal will allow kids to more positively develop and prevent low self esteem. Its a social ideal as most kids will not become professional athletes and this approach will allow them to grow and develop in a more positive light, as you get older and more mature, you can then develop your competitive spirtit and mentally be able to handle the highs and lows of winning and losing.

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